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My Story - A Follow Up by Tigress Luv WELL, HELLO! I just received a letter from a lady who had read "My Story" and it made me feel as though I should do a follow up! Well, a few days after I wrote "My Story" 'B', again, got into a rage and put his fist through a window - and I had to lock myself in the bathroom with only the cover of the toilet bowl as a weapon (great weapon, by the way - heavy enough to do the job, big enough to hit its target, and easy to swing with!) ... to sum it up - I left 'B' just as I said I would, and guess what...the VERY NEXT DAY after I left him he moved in with another woman! Blew me away!!! (And hurt like hell, too.) Here all this time I was thinking he LOVED me so much...and here all this time he had been accusing me of having the 'cheating heart' - AND IT WAS HIM WHO WAS THE PIG! Ugh. (don't look under the bed unless you've been there) So, to be honest, for a few weeks I moped around and drank a lot, and sank into my pity-pot confirming my 'victim-status' over and over again. Then I grabbed up EVERYTHING that was his, and (just like in 'Waiting to Exhale') threw it out the front door (it was kind of hard to get the entertainment center, big over-stuffed chair, and the dining table out the door by myself, but I did it) and then I lit it all on fire (thank God the neighbors didn't call 911 - 'cause it went up like a bomb!) Then I cried some more. When 'B' found out what I had done to his stuff he threatened to sue me - and, boy, was he MAD - but basically he didn't do anything at all ... I mean, why would he jeopardize the 'fake front' he was putting up for his new gal *hehe*? So, I won't kid you...I cried a lot. And I drank a lot. But still, through it all, I watched out for him with baited fear. And I even dated a couple of guys just trying to quiet the pain in my heart. But, YUK - the last thing I wanted ever again was a relationship! But one night (about 5 or 6 months later) I met a man - it was on a night when that was the LAST thing I wanted to do. And he was a kind man. A gentle man. A REAL man. He was pure of heart and had NO ISSUES (YIPPIE!). And time and commitment with him hasn't changed that. We purchased a beautiful home together in April. He loves my kids and they love him (he even cried when my son was in the hospital). We have five great dogs, 12 finches, one parakeet, and one rabbit. We are all so happy that I feel guilty about it! And guess what? Last week I received this (by the way - this is a picture of the actual ring). We have set the date for May and I have NEVER been happier in my life! As for 'B'? I heard his true colors eventually came out and she threw him out, too. I also heard he moved FAR, FAR away! Yes, there is a God! Here is my man on stage (isn't he awesome!?) --------------------------->